This week my great friend Chester Elton, New York Times best-selling author of All In, The Carrot Principle, and The Best Team Wins, asks me why I, unlike a lot of people he has met, feel over-appreciated at work or at home.
Part 2: Raise Your Hand If You Feel Over-Appreciated!
By Marshall Goldsmith
#1 bestselling author of the books, All In, The Carrot Principle, and The Best Team Wins, Chester Elton, is one of the most influential voices in our field today. He’s a member of our 100 Coaches organization, an expert on the topics of culture and the multigenerational workplace, and he is always trying to make the world a better place.
Last week Chester talked about recognition and this week he asks me my thoughts about the subject. I’m excited to share with you my perspective. Below is an excerpt from our interview.
Chester: Marshall, we were talking the other day about recognition, which is a big topic for me. I’ll often ask big audiences to “”Raise your hand. Does anybody here feel over-appreciated in their work or in their life?” No one ever raised their hand until I met you. You raised your hand. Tell me about that. Do you really feel over-appreciated?
Marshall: I do! I have a degree in math, and I’m not putting myself down, yet being ranked number one coach in the world 10 years in a world might be a tad excessive. The thing I feel about that, though, is I don’t feel bad about it. Let me explain why.
To me, if you’re over-appreciated, you might as well say, “Who’s good at personal marketing?” Because if you’re really good at personal marketing, you probably do get a little extra appreciation, and if you feel underappreciated, who’s bad at personal marketing? I think it’s okay to be good at personal marketing. It’s okay to be appreciated, and it’s okay to be over-appreciated.
It shows that you’re doing a good job of developing your brand and personal marketing, In my new book with Sally Helgesen, How Women Rise, we talk about women’s issues. One we talk about is that many women have a hard time with self-promotion. They’re often too hard on themselves.
Chester: One thing I love about you, Marshall, is your humility, the way you talk about it so openly. It is interesting that there are times when we think, “Oh, no, no, no,” and shrink back from recognition. No, when you reflect or deflect people’s appreciation, it’s kind of insulting and you offend people inadvertently.
I love your MG100. I’m honored to be one of the members. What happens in those sessions to me is just so invigorating because so many people are appreciative of what everyone else does.
Marshall: Thank you. Thank you so much!